The Single One…
I need a nap. The new dating question… Is he married? How do you know – especially if u date out of your zip code. The “new married” seems to be that you get days off for good behavior “to date.” Or if the marriage is really progressive the wife lives in the house a couple of days a week – of course that’s just to keep the family concept in tact. Dating used to be about looking for qualities that you found enticing – witty, kind, sexy and smart. Now you need to stay focused on the bigger issue who is married and still dating? Rings are irrelevant. Jewelry cumbersome. What’s next in the dating game? Perhaps I just need to broaden my dating circle!
The Married One
No where to run, no where to hide. Traveling with your husband is a constant challenge, it takes humor and patience. There is no escape – you are together in one room with one bathroom. Constant questions- where do we eat, what’s after dinner, can’t you read that map, where are we and so on? But the memories, laughter, & mistakes (running out of gas or ordering from a French menu you can’t translate make it all worthwhile. I wouldn’t trade it for all the privacy in the world. Well maybe an extra bathroom!
The Married One & The Single One
Sometimes life seems perfect. The stars align & you are at peace. This can happen whether you are single or married. A perfect martini, your son hits a hole in one, or you fit into your skinny jeans. You’re excited that your business and personal life are in sync or just happy to be looking at a sunset (That would be Barb.) (Sandy would have to nail 7 salsa spins.) It’s easy to forget those peaceful moments and just focus on the to-do list. We try to remind ourselves to STOP… hug your child, kiss your husband or boyfriend, or take aspirin (an important pain prophylactic) to make yourself feel better. Tomorrow there will be new challenges. Don’t concentrate on the wrong things. Whether Single or Married we really all want the same things!
The Married One…
How ironic that I am writing my Get Personal thoughts today. It’s my (opps, our) anniversary – married 20 years! Ron calls his life with me BB – he had no life, “Before Barbara.” We all come into relationships with “baggage.” It’s how we shift the contents that makes for a smooth ride. How do you keep the marriage alive? The spark, the romance. We spend millions of dollars keeping ourselves looking young, fit & desirable. We want to be swept off our feet! We don’t want a vacuum cleaner as an anniversary present! So men just humor us -chill the glasses, order flowers, wine, dine with us and light candles! Sweep us off our feet! It will work. At least until the next anniversary when you have to do it all over again!
The Single One…
Flying single to events is bad enough – but drinking alone could be the final demise. How many events are reasonable to attend alone each year? People don’t know where to seat the singles or what to do with them. Do you dance with your girlfriends’ husband (that’s always well received), or alone, or attempt to spot the only “unattached guy” and intercept him for a dance. His girlfriend is probably on a business trip in Asia so he’s only temporarily available for the night. So while the married girls always want to think about maintaining the spark – the single girls need to always think about igniting it with someone new!!!