The Married One
I look relaxed don’t I? Not! Let me tell you about Saturday night in the country. A glass of wine, a fire, all of a sudden BUZZ. Remember the movie “The Swarm?” Bees, hundreds, descended from the fireplace. How you react tells you a lot about your relationship. Armed w/a fly swatter, Ron fought back while I did the intelligent thing. Found “Bee Conscious”on line, pleaded & at 8:51 PM Chris came, ladder, vacuum, mask & bee box in hand. “Bees are like sex, said Chris, “you never forget the first time!” And hopefully for me there won”t be be a second time!
The Single One
The physical and emotional unavailable guys – there should be a “Beware Sign.” They live out of state, still in 22 year marriages- sad, lonely and unfulfilled marriages, but can’t leave. Others have girlfriends – not just girlfriends -live in girlfriends. Or they are divorced and really never left the wife. How do you detect them before being seduced? Not easy. They have mastered the skill of elusiveness. If you rule out all these guys, who is left? The available guy that you should want but don’t. Are we addicted to the elusive behavior or really not able to find the sexy stable guy?
The Single One
Can you date someone with a different pace? Do opposites attract or is it really of like mind & pace? Two different paces. How would that work? I’m ready to go and he’s sleeping. I have seen the look of exhaustion on their “date face.” I’m sure relaxation and sleep are a good way to re-vitalize the spirit – but not for me. Pace only matters if one person feels out of sinc. If one leads and the other follows effortlessly – that can be a pretty smooth balance.
The Married One
The move… Moving and stress go hand in hand. What can test a marriage more? Most men are creatures of habit. When things are out of place they are lost. Who knew? Decisions like what to get rid of, (not your things of course) painting, furniture, electrical, contractors (he will become your new second husband) will wear you both down. Why didn’t you just stay where you were? Try not to forget this is fun & exciting. Stay tuned…next the sage burning!
The Married One
Can marriage sustain a move? First you convince him he has to move – he goes under duress. Next the overpriced house. You tell him we will live in it “as is.” Then you change your mind (of course). Now you negotiate for all new things! Do you buy the purse or the couch or both? Then comes the panic. Tempers flair, panic sets in. Whatever possessed you to do this? But it’s a done deal. So why not just bring out the wine, who cares if you have no furniture?
The Single One
The Electronic Dater – Who is he? How did this happen? He sits back, computer open, peruses dating sites & never has to leave the house. How detached have we become? Is the telephone obsolete? Only texting – a world with no syntax, no voice intonation. Do you think you can decipher a text? The dating world- more confusing, more complicated, and crazier than ever, but we are up for the challenge. However he finds you, what’s better than the first date?