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The Married One

A ” little white lie” is defined as a minor, polite or harmless fib. Do we all tell them? Of course we do. It’s the grease that keeps the marriage engine running. But if our husband happens to tell a lie it is a complete betrayal of trust. We get indignant & suspicious! Who decides whether a lie is small?  When we sneak a new purchase into the house, is that a lie or just an omission?  When he asks,” is that new? We reply, “oh no, it’s been in the closet for years.” When he buys you a gift  you tell him it’s exactly what you wanted.  Are these white lies? What he doesn’t know won’t hurt him or you. Sometimes what you don’t say says it all!

The Single One

What is a white lie in the dating world? I forgot to tell you about my wife, live in girlfriend, or that I’m semi-separated. The lines are blurred. There is the married guy who is just sad, bored & confused so he justifies dating, or the ambivalent one who wants to date you but needs enticing , or the overt married and aggressive one who is ready and willing to play anytime. Do they all fall into the white lie domain? Are these omissions or careful and strategic lies? Probably better to sneak in extra shopping bags. That will be way less expensive than getting caught in the marriage loop.